The Masters of the Mind
Mini Lesson: Change Your Mindset II
Yesterday you saw my simple advice about how to change your mindset from focusing on how dangerous the world is to a mindset of how most people, even strangers, we interact with daily are for the most part not out to do us harm.
This topic came up from a Masters of the Mind subscriber named Bridget who wrote me about how she’s been conditioned to see people as dangerous & she has a very negative mindset. She also says she watches her thoughts very carefully & can sometimes dismiss the negative programming but it’s very much hit & miss for her and she wants to learn how she can release the negative thoughts and move forward with taking positive actions.
So, this topic hits close to home for me because I struggled with the same problem early in my life and it took some very concentrated effort over time to change my mindset.
I don’t know about Bridget but what kept me trapped in a mindset full of negative thoughts was a matter of focus. Things always seemed the worst when my attention was on what wasn’t working and what I didn’t have.
It was only when I began to deliberately shift my focus onto what was working, what I did have and what I could still do that those negative thoughts would fade away.
So, that’s my advice for you & for Bridget on how to release negative thoughts and to take positive action to move forward. It may sound far too simple but it’s not always easy to do. Focusing on what you can still do is a powerful method to change your mindset.
There’s a quote I read once that basically said:
If you always focus on what you’ve lost
you will be lost—
If you focus on what is still possible
you will find new opportunities
So that’s what usually works best for me and I invite you to try using that to change your mindset when you find yourself stuck in negative thoughts and not taking positive action.
As part of my mini lesson Change Your Mindset, I promised to give you my list of the 13 activities I do every day or every week that require me to trust someone else. So, I’m going to take a sip of my favorite Italian sparkling beverage Galvanina Blood Orange, and run down the list for you.
1. Drive 30 minutes to work to the Las Vegas Strip. Take my word for it, this is like a version of The Great Race for the new millenium. I am amazed every day that my car survives intact. Thankfully some of the drivers in Vegas are transplanted from the midwest and have some driving manners.
2. Turn on lights in my home. Think about it for a second. I didn’t do any of the electrical wiring (even though I could) so I trusted someone to make sure the wiring was up to code. I’ve done enough wiring myself to be grateful for lights coming on and the wall not catching on fire when I flip the switch.
3. Eat in a restaurant I: This could actually qualify as several items. Trust that someone didn’t poison the food.
4. Eat in restaurant II: Trust that they didn’t under cook it and let me get sick eating such food.
5. Eat in restaurant III: Trust they stored it properly so it didn’t start to rot before use.
6. Eat in a restaurant IV: Trust they are actually serving me what I ordered instead of dog food or my cousin Bobby. Really! Everyone tells me my cousin Bobby lives here in Vegas and I’ve yet to find him.
7. Eat in a restaurant IV: Trust they handled it properly so it didn’t become contaminated with some other germs.
8. Use restaurant bathroom. Speaking of germs! Trust that I can use their facilities without catching the plague or something the previous restaurant go-er is suffering from.
9. Use my own bathroom I. I’m rather happy that complete strangers can be trusted to pipe the sewage to where it’s supposed to go. Seriously. When I flush I’m damn glad the sewage isn’t appearing moments later in my yard.
10. Use my own bathroom II. Equally glad that the strangers in item 8 made sure to pipe the fresh water into the supply lines where it belongs.
11. Use the elevator at work: Let’s see, how often do you personally check the brakes on the elevators you use? I think you get my point.
12. Getting my neck adjusted by my chiropractor. Hey, he could be putting me into a Mayan death grip for all I know. I trust this guy to adjust my neck and alleviate the pain from a fractured vertebrae. If he has one bad day where he loses it or mistakenly thinks I’m behind on my account instead of the patient in the next room over, he’s got me in as vulnerable position as there is. SNAP!
13. Getting a haircut. Dan’s a nice guy but I don’t really know him. He’s got sufficient forearm strength to shove the scissors through my neck or to give me a Mohawk.
So, as you can see there’s ample opportunity for strangers to mess up your day or your life completely if they had any such desire. But more often than not they don’t. This is just scratching the surface. We haven’t covered your car mechanic, the bank, the dentist, your optometrist, or the nurse drawing your blood. The list can go on and on. I think you get my point.
P.S. If anyone knows the quote I cited, please let me know where it’s from so I can quote it accurately to the proper source. Thank you!