The Masters of the Mind
Mini Lesson: Change Your Mindset
Bridget, a loyal Masters of the Mind reader, sent me an email telling me that she wants to have a positive mindset. But she says she can’t change her mindset because her instincts and conditioning keep telling her that people are dangerous and untrustworthy. Because of these feelings, she has a very negative mindset.
Bridget also says she watches her thoughts very carefully and can sometimes dismiss the negative programming, but it’s very much hit and miss for her. She wants to learn how she can change her mindset, release the negative thoughts and move forward by taking positive actions.
My initial reaction is to wonder if the negative mindset or negative conditioning came from any trauma or abuse. If so, I suggest she seek out professional medical attention regarding those events, as I am not a trained therapist and can only offer my opinion.
That being said, I’m about to show you and Bridget how people who believe that all people are dangerous often forget a few simple things—things that can often help change their mindset from a negative one that sees all people as dangerous to a positive mindset that sees most people as trustworthy and helpful.
Here’s an example for you:
Every day you probably drive past hundreds, if not thousands, of people who are not only strangers but are people you HAVE to trust. In order to drive a car effectively, you have no choice but to trust that all of these other people will not swerve out of their lanes and crash into you.
The same goes for eating dinner at a restaurant where some stranger is handling and preparing your meal. You have to trust them not to poison you or cause you harm by tampering with the food.
Now, these are very extreme examples. But they are also very real examples of how we do live in a big dangerous world where there is ample opportunity to end our lives without even a moment’s notice. Yet, this is also a world where every system on the planet would quickly collapse if we all held onto a negative mindset, believing most people are dangerous and untrustworthy.
So, I encourage you to sit down and write out a list of 10 more activities you do every day or every week that require you to trust someone else to do their job safely.
I think you’ll be surprised at how this will change your mindset and mental focus from looking for danger to a positive mindset of seeing safe interactions with others. This exercise will open up your mind to the fact that you ALREADY ARE placing a huge amount of trust and faith in other people. You’ve just never thought of it that way before!
It’s actually staggering when you sit down and look at your list.
As for Bridget wanting to learn how to release negative thoughts and take positive action…
Be sure to come back tomorrow because you’ll get my answer to that. Plus I’ll give you my list of the 13 activities I do every day or every week that require me to trust someone else.